Regardless of what or how we celebrate this time of year, there is an unspoken expectation to be joyful, grateful, giving, and loving. And for some of us this is simply not how we feel, not what we are experiencing. Whether it’s due to the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a connection to the spark within us, the holiday cheer can be a painful reminder, if not downright heartbreaking.
To put it more beautifully, I’d like to share with you a poem, written by my dear friend, Janie Cook, on her blog, Living with the Loss of a Child.
in the shadow of blinking Christmas lights
of holiday parties and celebrations
surrounded by gift shoppers
and promises of peace, hope and joy
it is winter in my heart
i am the cold, cloudy days
the damp leafless trees
the stark stillness of the night sky
filled with longing
so . . . Holy One who knows the seasons of our hearts
be the sunrise that warms
be the breeze that freshens
be the light that illuminates
and help me give birth to The Love that is ever deeper and more sustaining
(To read Janie’s post in its entirety, click here.
Regardless of what it is you are feeling during this holiday season, please consider this note a kind of permission slip to feel whatever that is – whether it’s joy, sadness, grief, gratitude, indifference, anger, etc. You may even want to share with someone close what is true for you so that you don’t feel so alone in your seemingly unique situation.
Remember, we can’t put our feelings on a timer, and only feel them when they are welcome. We must welcome them when they are present so that they don’t overtake and cripple us for even longer a time…
May you find some peace with your feelings this holiday season, and know that I’ll be joining you in doing my best to honor my feelings. May we all find peace, all over the whole wide world. Amen.
PS This post is directly lifted from my December, 2012 newsletter, True Voices Express. To make sure you don’t miss another offering like this, please go to the the top right of this page, and sign up to receive future issues. I’d love to be in contact with you more often – but not too often, I promise. Thanks!